Fall’s a-flying

Stephen and I went to our very first marriage retreat the weekend before our 14th anniversary on 10/14. We have been talking about attending one for a few years now, but we finally made it happen … and boy, was it worth it!

“Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener!”

These “getaways” are aimed at Christian couples, from newlyweds, to folks whose marriage just needs a tune-up, to some who are even on the brink of calling it quits. Stephen and I fell in the middle category, so we chose break-out sessions that met our needs for enrichment.

Here we are on day 1 of our LIfeWay Marriage Getaway @ the Ridgecrest Conference Center, near Black Mountain, NC.

The themes were varied, but the overarching message of the weekend is that God designed marriage to be a celebration and reflection of His love for us. So, why would we willfully want to degrade this beautiful gift that God has given us?

After all, God is the Creator of diversity. It’s a declaration of his handiwork, so we need to affirm the differences between a husband and wife (which can so often be the cause of marital stress), instead of condemning it. Of course, this can be difficult sometimes, as a man and woman’s nature are oftentimes seemingly so at odds.

But God created us to have unique roles that reflect the divergent aspects and characteristics of Himself, so those differences which can divide are actually assets, not burdens and stresses. And harmony in marriage will result from embracing our complimentary variances.

Check out Zeke and Gabriel’s serious-to-terrified expressions just before riding the Haunted Train on 10/24. Don’t worry … they survived unscathed, and declared it to be “awesome!”

As author Gary Chapman put it during his session: “Each of us has a primary love language. Seldom do a husband and wife have the same, and by nature we speak our love language.

“So, we must learn to speak their language … (and) if it doesn’t come natural, it’s an even greater act of love. Love is something you do for the other person, not for yourself.”

“If I have all faith, so that I can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.” — 1 Corinthians 13:2

But for a spouse to do this effectively, he or she must get right with God by first utilizing the Fruits of the Holy Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.

And by opening ourselves to God and His abundant strength, we can grow in dealing with our own flaws and sins, which then filters into our marriage and our treatment of our spouse. In short, it’s a heart issue. Like our pastor at Mercy Hill always says, true Christ-like behavior works from the inside out.

Zeke & Stanley admire “Turkey” the pumpkin. Don’t ask me … Gabriel named it.

The even bigger news of that weekend was that Stephen and I renewed our vows. Some of you may recall that we went way out of our way to exclude God from our very atheistic wedding, with our vows being more about each of us separately and what we brought to the table, and less about our union.

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:12

Our old vows were so much about self, instead of selflessness … hopes, instead of heartfelt promises … feel-good notions, instead of serious submission to one another … a 50/50 arrangement, instead of a devotion of each giving 100%.

Houston was originally going to be a “medieval zombie executioner,” but it eventually morphed into just a good ol ‘zombie. Scary!

In retrospect, it is so clear that God has always been with us, even back during our hostile-toward-Christianity days. And this just seemed like the perfect opportunity to publicly renew our commitment to one another by attesting that Christ is our foundation, and that through Him, we can win “the race.”

“Let us throw off everything that hinders & the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” — Hebrews 12:1

But how do we train for this race mentioned in Hebrews? Well, by being intentional in our love for Christ and for our spouse, and then we can achieve oneness in our relationship. But we must remember that marriage is a marathon, and each day is just part of the worthy and fulfilling quest.

Zeke & Gabriel are Steve from Minecraft. Great job on your homemade costumes, boys!

Gabriel and Zeke celebrated their 6th birthday on 10/16. Since this was a Thursday, we got together with some of our fave homeschool families, including crews from CC and church, as well as our wonderful homeschool neighbors, Shawn, Dixie, and Milton.

We started off at Putt-Putt for miniature golf and video games, and then hit Chick fil-A, where we took over the outdoor seating area for feasting on chicken and chocolate cake on the gorgeous fall day with which we had been blessed.

That night we had a sleepover with the twins’ buddies, Jackson and Alex. Gabe and Zeke had a blast during every part of their big day, as did I, since I was pretty doggone diligent about planning as low-maintenance and stress-free a day as possible.

Gabriel was the only Amigo brave enough to strike a pose w/ this huge skeleton & Mommy. The guy inside the costume explained that he crafted the long arms out of pool noodles and wire … so cool!

That Friday, Gramsey and Papa came to visit. They took care of the boys — thanks a million, y’all! — so Stephen and I could attend Poker For Preemies. This is an incredible annual fundraiser that helps raise money for premature babies, and special-needs and sick kids in our area.

It was an incredibly delightful evening, specifically because we got to hang with our great pals, Meredith and Greg (who happen to help organize the event). In addition to paying for our way into the gala, our awesome friends also hooked us up with starter chips for gambling. Mucho gracias, y’all!

The only gambling we did was Texas Hold ‘Em, but it was sooooo fun. I even won a hand! So, Stephen used all of our surplus chips, plus some additionally purchased chips, to enter a cool gift-basket raffle, which he then won. The odds were in our favor for sure!

Granny & I get prepped for a full night of spooky shenanigans & ghoulishly good times. Thanks for making Halloween so grand, Granny!

And did I mention there was an open bar, our local cigar guy doled out complimentary stogies, and we took a cab home?! Yep, we had a rockin’ wild night indeed!

Stephen and I took the kids to the Haunted Train in Burlington on 10/24. It was a short ride, but particularly sweet since Zeke didn’t get to ride the Halloween Train at the Transportation Museum some three years ago due to his fairly common tantrums back then. (If you recall, he didn’t get to go trick-or-treating that year either. Poor dude.)

So, this year’s jaunt was of especially significant to Zeke, who can finally say he has ridden a festive fall train. And it’s also a big deal across the board, as it was just a nice way to celebrate both his and his bros’ increasingly mature behavior. Way to go, 3 Amigos!

While @ the park on the twins’ birthday, Zeke masters swinging one high-wheel to the next — a feat that seems to impress onlookers Alex & Gabriel.

This was probably our most chill Halloween yet. We didn’t do any church trunk-or-treats or drive to any faraway locales to get candy. We stuck to our neighborhood, took a brief half-time to drop off the tired folks (Zeke and Granny), and then headed out for round 2 with the late-night adventurers: Houston, Gabe, Stephen, and I.

Dare-devil Gabriel even went up solo (with Daddy) to “the house with the bloody heads,” which the kids and I had been bike-riding to during the day as preparation for this All Hallow’s Eve night. Oh well, maybe next year, Houston!

Since they are bolting for a more Southern home this Friday, we have been trying to spend as much time with the J-Crew as possible. I recently had a girls-night out at a swanky tapas bar with Christie and her good pal, Tricia.

Some of our giddy birthday posse @ Chick fil-A on 10/16: (from L to R) Tyrnan, Houston, Jackson, Gabriel, Zeke, Eli, Briggs & Knox.

We also celebrated Asher’s 8th birthday; Houston partook in a last-hurrah sleepover; and then Stephen and I went out with Christie and Logan and their kind community group earlier this week. And I am crying just thinking about their move because Christie is so much more than a friend.

I joke to her, saying “Whose coattails am I going to ride on now?!” But it is the truth; she is my mentor in her faithful walk with Christ and her passionate call to homeschool her fearless threesome.

Christie is funny and smart, genuine and self-less, and always giving and grace-filled. She is authentic, never putting on airs. Her honesty, realness, and forthrightness are such rarities to behold in this age of pretend and plastic.

My great pal, Christie, & I in the only pic of the two of us in existence. Funny thing about that is that she & her hubby are professional photographers … memory-card-erasing slackers!

She is a lifelong-learner who is thoughtful, inquisitive, and opinionated, but not easily offended. Christie is also a person who is amazingly open-minded and ready to hear new things or just old things from a different perspective. Seems oxymoronic to possess such diverse traits in our coarse culture.

But that is precisely why she will be so missed. Thank you for making me a better person, Christie, and for welcoming my brood into the fold of your incredible family’s adventures these last three fun-filled years. May God bless y’all in the Holy City!

By the way, I’m in the market for a new best bud. So, if you enjoy a good intellectual challenge, like discussing controversial topics in a civil manner, love the Lord (but still say the occasional curse word), have a penchant for ’90s music, and consider the TV show “Portlandia” brilliant (hint hint: Tricia!), message me.

Homeschool “Daze”

The boys and I went to Homeschool Days in Williamsburg, VA, from 9/14-9/18. We carpooled with some CC pals, who we’ll call the Y Posse.

Miss Kristy (not of J-crew fame) drove us there, all around, and back. And her kids, Logan (age 8) and Landon (age 4), were the 3 Amigos’ partners in crime. Having no daddies made this a particularly challenging trip, but I think we mamas pulled it off pretty well … and live to tell about it!

After a jam-packed day of history (and lots of walking) in Colonial Williamsburg, the 3 Amigos & I strike our final pose of the day in front of the Governor’s Palace.

The trip was a nice opportunity for me to get to know Kristy a lot better, and of course, and served as great bonding experience for all our boys. Plus, we ran into and got to hang out with many other CC families during our field-trip fun!

We stayed at the amazing Great Wolf Lodge, whose centerpiece is its indoor water park. Gabriel, the “dare devil,” jumped right in, mastering the intro solo (no raft) slides immediately and the intermediate (solo or group on a raft) slides soon thereafter. If he could’ve ridden the mack daddy of slides, the Howlin’ Tornado (whose height requirement is 48″), he surely would’ve done so. That child is a thrill-seeker for sure!

Gabe’s confidence did get the best of him one time, though. Interestingly, kids as little as 44″ can ride some of the medium slides by themselves. And I’m telling you, those are some pretty intense slides.

Gabriel tests out the stocks in Williamsburg. Now there’s some punishment Colonial-style!

So, G-Man climbed the steep stairs and stood line without me, while I waited at the bottom with camera in hand. Well, he made his way down alright, but did so sans raft. Turns out, he almost instantly fell off, and descended down the high slide on his butt and scared half to death.

Wide-eyed and a tad frantic, Gabriel landed in the deep pool at the bottom and began swimming his heart out. Despite his frightened state, Gabe’s frenzied doggy-paddling was actually keeping him afloat and moving him to the pool’s edge quite effectively. Still, I was just about to jump in and assist, when a lifeguard spotted him and pulled him to safety.

Turns out that Houston is not a dare devil. In fact, he has now taken the place of cautious child (formerly Zeke) and has morphed into our most chary amigo. Houston wouldn’t even consider doing the medium slides till well after Zeke was riding them with me, and Gabe had taken a few solo adventures.

Armored up & ready to go, Houston prepares to defend James Fort during our visit to Jamestown Settlement.

But the important thing is that Houston eventually got over his angst, anger, and frustration, and manned up to do the Howlin’ Tornado … and did so the first time without Logan, who was mistakenly deemed too short to ride.

So, Houston and I rocked it out, while poor Logan walked down feeling defeated. Luckily, we realized and remedied the error in Logan’s measurement, and he and Houston were Tornado-riding fiends from there on out, freeing me up to ride with some CC mamas and daddies.

I must point out, too, that Zeke’s reserved, but growing bravery is amazing to witness. From the guy who just this summer tried his hand at swinging by himself and bike riding without training wheels, to now the kid who will take on my scary challenges, Zeke’s becoming quite the thrill-seeker … but at his own pace, of course.

Zeke peers into the potty of the Public Gaol in Williamsburg. Hmmm … just how could 18th-century prisoners make that work?!

After hearing all about our water-park excitement, Stephen wants to take the whole family back to Great Wolf Lodge some time. Once the twins are 48″ and can ride the Tornado, and we find a good Groupon deal (’cause that place is crazy expensive without a deep discount), we are so there!

Obviously, our main focus of this trip was history. On Monday, we visited Jamestown Settlement, where we got to check out re-creations of the Powhatan Indian Village and James Fort, and board a replica of the Susan Constant. Plus, we lucked out and got to do our tour with the J-Crew, their friends, and another cool CC family.

On Tuesday, we visited Colonial Williamsburg, where we toured the George Wythe House (my fave thing of the day), the Public Gaol, and the Magazine and Guardhouse; and got to check out Galt Apothecary, the Gunsmith, the Foundry and Silversmith, and saw many other cool things on our walkabout the historic city.

Houston hangs out w/ George Washington during our trip to the Yorktown Victory Center. (That’s his good buddy, Logan, in the background.)

We opted not to go inside the Governor’s Palace or the Capitol simply because the tours were quite long, and Kristy and I didn’t think the kids (especially an increasingly bad-attitude Houston) would be all that interested at that point in our long day.

But we were treated to a dramatic reading of the entire Declaration of Independence in front of the colonial courthouse. It was satisfying to see so many Americans in the crowd enlivened about individual rights, private property, and secession from a tyrannical government!

On Wednesday, we hit Yorktown Victory Center. We spent most of our time at the Continental Army encampment, where we got to see a real cannon and musket demo, and learn about wartime medical treatment in colonial times. We also saw archaeological relics from one of Cornwallis’ merchant ships, the Betsy, which the twins thoroughly enjoyed.

After getting our school year into full gear, I quickly realized that I had to get something off of my plate, and sadly, that something was the Pregnancy Care Center. As y’all know, I was slated to be the lead facilitator of the abortion-recovery Bible study (something I have wanted to do for a long time), but after discussion with Stephen and much prayer, I knew it was my volunteering that had to give.

Gabriel & Zeke make friends @ Yorktown’s re-created 1780s working farm, which grows cotton, tobacco, and other crops.

I do know in my heart that ARBS is something God wants me to do … eventually. My calling at present is to homeschool my kids, and I didn’t want my educational mission (or perhaps even our relationships) to suffer under the weight of a totally stressed-out mama and her unbearable schedule.

Plus, I knew that anxiety would probably spill over into my marriage, and Lord knows, I already struggle enough at being a godly wife, so that wasn’t something I even wanted to stir up in our home. I know God will equip me for life’s challenges, but He also gives me the common sense to know when I’ve bitten off more than I can chew.

On 9/26, Stephen took the boys to a high school football game. They didn’t make it through the whole game because Zeke had a tummy ache, but word is they still had a good time, and have all since gotten the football bug. In fact, we’re giving Gabe and Zeke a nice peewee football next week for their 6th birthday.

Zeke & Gabriel explore the upper deck of the (replica) Susan Constant, the largest of three English ships that voyaged to America in 1606-1607, resulting in the founding of Jamestown in the new Colony of Virginia.

Stephen was a pretty miffed by the price of the game ($24!), as well as the announcer pimping a sales-tax increase for public schools, which is going to be on the ballot in November. Peculiar that no matter how high are our property taxes and the fact that NC has an “Education Lottery,” the government-school mafia is never shy about their incessant desire of other people’s money “for the children.”

I didn’t go to the game because Miss Christie had a girls-only party. We ate finger food, drank a little wine, and watched Moms’ Night Out. It’s a wonderful family movie, which was actually made by homeschoolers.

I guess you could call it a Christian movie, but the acting and the film work, were very well done — kind of a rarity in many movies of faith. Most movies in that genre have a quality storyline, but simply have bad acting and shoddy direction. Seriously, this film was a real pleasure for Christians and non-Christians alike.

Speaking of movies, the kids recently watched The House On Haunted Hill with Stephen. The 1959 Vincent Price cult classic definitely gave them a scare! Good thing Daddy didn’t let them watch Poltergeist like he had jokingly suggested. One day, Stephen … one day.

Gabriel & I check out the “earthen kitchen” (really a mound of Dakota fire holes) during our time @ the Continental Army encampment in Yorktown.

Houston had been on a real rhetorical kick lately. Here are a few of his doozies:

  • I saw Houston rough-housing with his bros, putting them in hold positions and giving them harsh commands. After voicing my concern, Houston said, “It’s okay, Mommy. We’re playing a game called the government.”
  • “What game are you playing?” Zeke asked his bros after witnessing their unique shenanigans. “It’s like a documentary,” explained Houston with great confidence. Yep, we love ourselves some nonfictional TV.
  • Houston was encouraging Gabriel and Zeke, saying how equally creative was everyone’s Legos constructions, and how sharing them would be a lot of fun. Then he looked at me, and said in a clarifying tone, “But not in a communist way.” So glad the apple doesn’t fall too far from the liberty tree!

At Great Wolf Lodge, Houston gets a hug from Rachel the Raccoon & Landon after the boys’ first-ever try @ bowling, which was expensive & over way too fast, but @ least made for some good memories!

The kids bought Minecraft with their piggy-bank money back in August. They’re pretty obsessed with it, which was annoying at first. But now that they’re earning “diamonds” at a much greater rate (due to improved behavior), the reward system is paying off. I get better manners and obedience on a daily basis, and they get their half-hour Minecraft fix usually every couple of days. Perfect leverage for me, and perfect pay off for them.

Health update: I’m still going to the physical therapist every two weeks, but he and I are both thinking that I’m about 90% of the way to full functionality and mobility. It has been a long, tough road, but I’m so thankful that my aches and pains are finally letting up, and I’m getting my normal body back. Thanks to Stephen, too, for paying the bills!

The twins are still doing speech therapy once a week. Both of their therapists said they had “break-through” sessions yesterday, and agreed that they are on their way to vastly improved speech, enunciation, and articulation. Way to go, Gabriel and Zeke!

Third time’s the charm

We officially kicked off our third year of homeschooling this past week, and amazingly, we are all handling it with a healthy dose of maturity and aplomb. In fact, that’s what all the veteran homeschoolers told me when I was a newbie: that it takes about three years to get into the groove. And that seems to be true with us!

The 3 Amigos @ Looking Glass Falls, Pisgah National Forest, during our CC camping adventure in western North Carolina.

I seem to have a handle on all the worries that have stressed me out during school kick-off the last two years, like Are we ready? Are we doing enough? Are we doing too much? Have I chosen the right curriculum? How will we get it all done and be everywhere we have to be, and still retain our sanity and joy? Etc.

I know my kids are smart, willing, and able, which is half the battle. But I finally have the confidence and experience to know that I work best tackling things one day at a time. Too detailed a lesson plan or regimented a schedule can throw this mama into a major tailspin for sure.

I’ve also learned to temper my thoughts about the future (always a fruitless endeavor), as well as to avoid those super-mom homeschool blogs that just tend to make me feel both overwhelmed and inadequate. Seriously, when do you people sleep … or poop?

Daddy & Gabriel are the first of Clan Dillingham to take on the thrill & chill of Sliding Rock!

It helped tremendously that we kept “lightly” schooling all late spring after CC concluded (mostly playing catch-up and tying up any miscellaneous loose ends), and then pushed on through the summer (practicing math, reviewing old material, and even starting a spelling curriculum).

We also spent much of our summer reading, reading, reading. This constant emphasis on  gobbling up books (plus, continued phonics lessons) helped the twins transition from emergent to beginner readers, so now they can start off their new school year as a confident book worm, just like big bro!

We sent in our letter of intent to the NC Department of Non-Public Instruction and are now an approved homeschool, according to the state. Legally, this has to occur some time during the school year when your oldest child is age 7, but I figured why not go ahead and do it, since I had the time, and we had already chosen a name.

The boys carefully make their way across the slippery rocks for some Arctic-like swimming @ Hooker Falls.

We named our homeschool Called to Freedom Academy. This comes from Galatians 5, when Paul is explaining to the people of Galatia that true freedom can only be attained through Christ. We no longer have to be burdened by the yoke of slavery, if Jesus is in our hearts.

Paul continues that man’s law has no real value, but that being led by the Holy Spirit and expressing your faith through love is the only thing that counts. Self-control, joy, kindness, and peace lead to liberty, not worshipping the “conceited, provoking, and envying” edicts of man and their destructive consequences.

I suppose the name could also be my little jibe against having to register with a state in the first place. Am I complying with a man-made law, which I consider extremely unnecessary, ineffective, and onerous on its face? Yep. But I’m being prudential in my relationship to government, just as Paul called Christians to be in Romans 13.

Gabriel & Zeke get silly during an evening stroll alongside Cascade Lake.

However, do I consider this mandated information being housed in some bureaucracy’s database in Raleigh a significant factor in my calling to homeschool my children? Nope.

Besides being a statue (with penalties for those who don’t abide), there are some perks of of registration. Perhaps tuition tax credits for those who opt out of public schooling their kids? Nah, but boy, do I wish. What we do get is a 20% discount at Barnes & Noble and free admission into the NC Zoo. I’ll take what saving I can get.

Houston is doing all second-grade curriculum this year, but the twins “grade” is not so well defined. Many of their studies — like math, reading, spelling, history, and science — are definitely first-grade level. But I’m holding off on language arts till their 6th birthday in October.

The boys take a rest on the state seal — in which Virtus (the goddess of virtue) has slain the oppressive king — before heading into the Virginia Capitol.

Having used this grammar-and-writing curriculum with Houston last year, I know it takes a more mature mind to handle the material. Plus, I want to wrap up their phonics book before I tackle this next big step.

One of the beauties of homeschooling is that we don’t have to go by a traditional calendar. Or catch the school bus at 7 in the morning … gasp!

Therefore, I’m referring to the Gabe and Zeke as “K1.” This satisfies people’s needs to label them according to what NC public schools say they should be (kindergarten), but also meets my kids’ needs of not being pigeonholed below their abilities and skills.

Despite Houston’s grumpy face (and the fact that we all had low blood sugar by the end of the tour), we enjoyed our time visiting the Virginia Capitol: home to the oldest legislature continuously operating in the Western Hemisphere.

Even with part-time schooling, we had plenty of time for summertime outings, and last month was no exception. We went camping in Western Carolina from 8/1-8/3 for our first CC camping trip, which is organized by a few other cool families who love the outdoors.

We camped at Cascade Lake, and enjoyed its beautiful scenery, fishing lake, and swimming pond. The campground is nestled near the mountains of the Pisgah National Forest, so we went off-site for some additional adventures, most notably Sliding Rock.

This 60-foot natural water slide is simply breathtaking, but not due to the descent, but rather, because of the extremely cold water in to which you plunge. Stephen said he felt like he was having a heart-attack his first time down.

One of Virginia’s most notable sons, Thomas Jefferson, designed the Capitol, which was the first public building in the New World constructed in the Monumental Classical style.

Gabe was the first amigo to accept the challenge. Not too shocking considering that he’s our dare devil. But the the water was so shockingly bitter that it prevented Houston from ever riding down, even though he painstakingly waded through the bone-chilling shallow waters and climbed the stairs.

Surprisingly, once Zeke (our typically cautious child) saw the thrill and excitement on his family and friends’ faces, he decided to take on that slippery rock, and did so with style and grace. Way to go, twins! Better luck next time, HL.

Transylvania County is known as the Land of Waterfalls, so we also stopped off for a photo opp at nearby Looking Glass Falls. After that, we head back toward the campground, and hiked to Hooker Falls, where the water was indeed frigid, but a lot more swimmer-friendly.

Houston leans on another Houston … Sam Houston, who is best known for his time in Texas, yet is another famous Virginia native.

On 8/11, we went to see Big Bang Boom with a couple CC/Mercy Hill families, whose moms (Holly and Erin) I consider to be new and fast friends. Making good friends is always a nice thing, but it is especially appreciated at present, since my best local pal is moving in a few months.

Yep, Miss Christie and the J-Crew are hitting the road in November. I was devastated when I first heard the news, since Christie is just an incredibly authentic and kind person, with whom I’m constantly learning and laughing. I simply haven’t had as genuinely true and loyal friend as her in years.

So, I’m in the market for a new best bud! But in the meantime, I’m already planning to visit often my old pal, who will soon be calling one of the South’s coolest cities home. God bless you in this new chapter of your lives, J-Crew!

Here I am w/ Robert E. Lee, who on April 23, 1862, stood on this very spot in Old Hall when he accepted command of the military forces of his beloved Virginia during the War Between the States.

Our church, Mercy Hill, also started a homeschool group, which meets monthly for play dates, field trips, etc. The aforementioned moms, Holly and Erin, are part of this crew, as are some other really cool ladies. So, I look forward getting to know them all better, and hopefully forging some strong, lasting friendships.

The boys began taking a Spanish class on 8/13. It’s taught by a former homeschool mom, who also reaches at the local Spanish-immersion magnet school, and meets at her home. Señora Flores’ goal is to have the kids master a small amount of vocabulary through repetition.

Stephen, who taught the kids Spanish intermittently last school year, is hoping this will lay a good foundation for them, so that he take it to the next level. I’m optimistic that this will eventually unfold, since Señora Flores is as capable in her teaching as Stephen is motivated in the boys learning Español.

Stephen & I enjoy my birthday afternoon being kid-free, but certainly not gun-free!

It was after dropping off the kids for their first Spanish lesson that the infamous “diesel incident” occurred. For those of you who haven’t already heard, I filled my van with … yes, diesel. Needless to say, I was mortified when I realized my mistake, but I was together enough to realize the huge error before starting my van.

Interestingly, it had been a good day, and I was all alone, so their was no one distracting me with screams or fights or shenanigans or zany questions or squeals or games (like the gargling contest we recently played while driving up to Virginia). So, there was no one I could blame but myself.

I’m always encouraging the boys to focus on the task at hand and not to get off track so easily, so it seems I need to take my own advice. After the wasted diesel, the tow, the labor for my mechanic to drain the tank, and then a fresh fill-up of unleaded, this is one expensive lesson I will not forget.

After more than two weeks, we just finished our first 500-piece puzzle … it’s amazing to what lengths boys will go to earn back their Minecraft privileges! By the way, Gabe did the majority of the work … thanks, Puzzle Man!

The boys and I visited Richmond 8/21-8/23. Our big adventure was going to the Virginia Capitol. What an incredibly beautiful, interesting, and historic structure. Being that it’s in my hometown, and I’ve driven past it a gazillion times en route downtown during my youthful partying days, I’m so glad I finally stopped to check it out.

Before heading inside the Thomas Jefferson-designed capitol, the kids, Gramsey, Lisa, and I were also treated to a tour of the Capitol Police Headquarters. My Aunt Nancy has worked there for many years, and was nice enough to give us a tour around the building, introduce us to some bigwigs, and show us some high-tech stuff.

I celebrated my 43rd birthday, and it was one of simple pleasures. It began by dropping off the boys early afternoon for a sleepover at Miss Christie’s, who owed me some freebie childcare, since Stephen and I watched her brood earlier in the month.

On 9/1, Zeke finally decided that he wanted to try biking sans training wheels (which he did in the yard that evening). And here is an ultra-focused Zeke the next day during his first on-road ride. Way to go, dude!

Next, Stephen took me to the new Sheetz in our neck of the woods (woo hoo!) for a Mexican-made Coke. You know, the kind in the green-glass bottle and made with real sugar, not corn syrup; it’s a rare treat and way better than b-day cake!

Next, we enjoyed an afternoon at the gun club, where I was a surprisingly good shot. After that, we feasted at a Mexican joint, and then rounded out our fun-filled day with the awesome Mark Wahlberg flick, The Shooter.

Granny came to visit the next day, extending my birthday fun well in to Labor Day. She even took the boys swimming with the J-Crew, so that I could get the house in order for our upcoming school kick-off. Thanks for making my long b-day weekend so nice, everyone!