We did it!

It’s official: I have successfully homeschooled three children for a school year. Granted, it was just kindergarten for Houston and pre-K for the twins, but we have all survived no worse for the wear.

In fact, I think we all enjoyed the experience overall and learned a ton in the process. The kids have soared academically, while I have grown in my understanding of the teaching styles that are most effective for the boys, both individually and as a group.

Gabriel plays w/ Iron Man in our “sand egg” (really, a mostly red-dirt egg right now) on one of the rare warm days we’ve had recently.

Our last day of Classical Conversations community was 3/26, so we don’t start with Cycle 2 of CC till September. That’s when Houston will move onto Apprentice (the grammar stage for 6 and 7 year olds), and Gabriel and Zeke will begin Abecedarian (grammar for preschoolers and kindergartners).

Besides successfully completing two 12-week semesters of Abecedarian studies, Houston decided to challenge himself with something called Memory of Excellence (MOE). This is when a child can recite all 24 weeks of memory work for two subjects.

“The education of children for God is the most important business done on earth. It is the one business for which the earth exists. To it all politics, all war, all literature, all money-making, ought to be subordinated; & every parent especially ought to feel, every hour of the day, that, next to making his own calling and election sure, this is the end for which he is kept alive by God: this is his task on earth.” — R.L. Dabney, theologian, pastor, Confederate Army chaplain, chief of staff to Stonewall Jackson & an all-around great Virginian

Houston picked history and Latin. So, the last couple of weeks we’ve slacked in other areas of school to make time for drilling 24 history sentences, and Latin noun endings and 1st through 5th noun declensions.

Houston’s best friend, Asher, was also going for MOE and had chosen history. So on 3/18, we had a practice session at Miss Christie’s house, where I quizzed Houston and Asher on the memory work.

We fed the geese & had a wonderful time playing w/ Miss Jessie & her little sister, Kaylee, @ the park on 3/14.

The two smarty britches proceeded to jump on Asher’s bed, singing their history sentences into their fists like rock stars. It was a bit wild, to say the least, but they nailed all the facts, historical figures and dates. Quite impressive.

The next step to earn MOE is to have the child recite the memory work another parent. So on 3/25, Houston did his history and Latin for Miss Christie, and Asher did his history and English grammar for me.

The final step was for each boy to do his two-subject recitation (sans any mistakes or hints) with their CC tutor, Miss Murphy. And to our great delight, Houston did so on 3/27, as did his buddy, Asher. Way to go, Big Hashy… we are so proud of y’all!

It’s so cool how much the kids’ CC memory work has seeped its way into their everyday lives. It’s as if their brains are just overflowing with the newfound knowledge. A good is example is last week when the 3 Amigos were playing war games.

Another great thing about homeschooling is that you can bite your pastry into the shape of a handgun w/o any fear of school suspension or expensive litigation.

Houston said, “You be Japan” to Gabriel “and you be Britain” to Zeke “and I’ll be America,” as they ran around the house, waving flags, shooting toy guns, dramatically acting out scenarios and singing “WWII and President Franklin D. Roosevelt.” Wow, who knew homeschooling would actually be so effective?

And then there’s a recent joke of Gabriel’s: “Knock knock,” he said. “Who’s there?” I asked. “The War of 1812,” he replied. “The War of 1812 who?” I continued. “The Missouri Compromise!” he answered with a grin.

Sure, it doesn’t make much sense out of context (but what little kid’s joke does?), but the information was dead-on congruent with the CC Timeline. I, for one, appreciate your classical nuance, G-man!

Besides school, we’ve been dealing with a few health issues lately. On 3/4, Houston visited the radiologist to get an x-ray of his adenoids — masses of tissue that are part of the lymph system and are closely related to tonsils.

Zeke proudly displays his frontier fort. He & brothers have come a long way in building the log-cabin constructions.

See, Houston snores, and has pretty frequent nosebleeds and headaches, so his pediatrician thought his adenoids might have something to do with these ailments. And the x-ray did show that his adenoids are indeed enlargened.

The next step was getting a second opinion at an ear, nose and throat (ENT) specialist. The doc said that, yes, both Houston’s adenoids and tonsils are huge, but that doesn’t necessarily mean he needs to get these throat lymphoids removed.

The ENT doc explained that he would only recommend surgery if Houston was showing signs of sleep apnea. This is a potentially life-threatening condition that both Stephen, Grumps and Papa have.

I was advised to watch Houston during his REM sleep cycle; and lo and behold, I do believe that poor child has inherited the apnea gene. Thus, we will be forging ahead with the surgery, so please keep big bro in your prayers as we maneuver through the stages of this medical treatment.

On 3/16, Daddy & the 3 Amigos met up w/ Miss Christie, Mr. Logan & the kids @ Reenactment of the Battle of Guilford Courthouse. Seen here, Houston & Gabriel strike a pose w/ one of the colonial revolutionaries.

The boys’ pal, Sam, invited them to Awana on bring-a-friend night last Sunday. They were excited to attend the event with their CC/Westover buddy, and Stephen and I were eager to take advantage of the free time for date night.

But when picking up the kids, Zeke was a bloody mess (and not in the British sense). Apparently, he had bitten his lip during a nasty fall. Zeke, who we just might have to nickname “Scar,” was a bit rattled, but turned out to be fine.

The Awana workers who took care of him were so apologetic. But as I explained, the Dillinghams sometimes leave a little blood and destruction in their wake. That’s how we like to make a first impression! Par for the course of raising the 3 Amigos.

Zeke also enjoys a warm day in the backyard sand egg, building castles, towers & mounds.

Well, if Zeke is Scar, maybe I should be called “Feeble Mama.” On 3/22, I incurred a foot injury while trying to turn a fallen tree into a good climbing tree for the boys. I attempted to kick off a huge dead branch, while balancing myself atop the log — a feat I surely could’ve pulled off 20 years ago.

But due to my age and lack of physical prowess, I instead toppled to the ground, hurting my heal during the landing. The result was what I think was acute plantar fasciitis, which was completely debilitating at first, but got better with ice, ibuprofen and rest.

Once I recovered from that, I started experiencing intermittent surges of pain and intense pressure in my head on Wednesday. They would come and go every few seconds, and felt like a vice clamping my skull behind my ears and then thrusting sharp pains forward toward my forehead.

Donning our newest cowboy hat, Gabriel is ready for a good night’s rest in the bunkbed.

I went to the doc the next day, and after a battery of tests, she ruled out any brain issues. Thank God! And after further examination, she concluded that my strange pain was either caused by a strained trapezious muscle or temporomandibular joint.

I’m leaning toward the latter diagnosis ’cause I have been a nighttime teeth-grinder for a decades and have been wearing a dental night guard for many years. But I suppose sometimes even with the guard, the jaw joint can get extra irritated.

I am taking a prescription anti-inflammatory, so my weird surging headaches have gotten better (they’re not as intense and not as often). But unfortunately, they’re still present. So if you would, please send out a few prayers for me and my decrepit old body.

In the meantime, I hope you and yours have a wonderful and happy Easter!

Education In Action

The 3 Amigos’ behavior has dramatically improved the farther we get away from January. I guess that’s why I decided to take the boys to Raleigh (sans Daddy) on 2/20 for a day of politics, activism, history and sightseeing.

The 3 Amigos take a break outside of the North Carolina House of Representatives chamber in the Legislative Building in Raleigh.

“Parents Know Best”

The main purpose of our trip to the Capital City was to participate in Education in Action Day. This was an event organized by the North Carolina Coalition of Home Educators (NCCHE), a political homeschool group that lobbies state representatives for pro-homeschool legislation.

“Parents have a natural and inalienable right to educate their children, publicly or privately, as they see fit, and that right should be recognized and encouraged.” — Ronald Reagan

Our first order of business was a group meeting with Lt. Gov. Dan Forest, who is a proud homeschooling dad. I was a big supporter of his during the last election, so it was really cool for the kids and I to rub elbows with the second most powerful man in the state.

After that, the boys and I wanted to visit with Phil Berger, who is our state senator, as well as the Senate President Pro Tempore. Unfortunately, he was in a meeting. In fact, we accidentally walked in on the seemingly serious sit-down. Whoops. Next time, I’ll be sure to make an appointment.

Houston snaps this photo of a painting of the baptism of Virginia Dare, the first English child born in the Americas, who died in the mysterious Roanoke Colony.

In our defense, Berger’s office had just been relocated, so the mishap wasn’t entirely our fault. Plus, Berger was cool, and we chatted instead with his gracious assistant, Beverly. Interestingly, as it turns out, she homeschooled her grandson. We are everywhere!

“If there be a people on earth given to sober second thought, amenable to reason and regardful of their plighted honor, I believe that … it is the people of North Carolina.” — Zebulon Vance, Confederate military officer, Governor of N.C. and U.S. Senator

The dudes and I passed along the four school-choice issues that we’d like our good senator to address in upcoming sessions of the general assembly:

  1. Give homeschool kids access to participate in sports or other extracurricular activities at their local public school, which their parents fund and support through their property taxes;
  2. Change the currently vague and often narrowly interpreted state homeschool definition to include outside resources, like online classes and co-ops, if parents choose these means to enhance their child’s educational experience;
  3. Offer tax credits for homeschool families as to eliminate double taxation of homeschool and private school parents. It’d be like a voucher, but better! In fact, a tax-credit bill was filed with the NC House of Representatives just two days after our visit to Raleigh … seems the 3 Amigos made an impression!
  4. Put parental rights language in the state homeschool statute, which would give additional protection for parents to make all decisions for the child, which would, of course, include education.

The dudes pose w/ North Carolinian-born statesmen who have served as President of the United States: James Polk, Andrew Jackson & Andrew Johnson.

A positive sign on the latter is the recent passage of Virginia’s Parental Rights Act, which codifies that “a parent has a fundamental right to direct the upbringing, education, and care of the parent’s child.” So, once the VA governor signs the bills, the rights of parents in my home state will be secure, even if a federal court decision tries to erode said rights.

VA’s Parental Rights Act “recognizes parental rights as a fundamental right and requires strict scrutiny in their protection.” — Michael Ramey, ParentalRights.org

Later in the day, we had the opportunity to meet with a few other pro-homeschool members of the General Assembly and a NC Supreme Court justice who home educates his kids.

But I figured the boys had gotten their fill of activism early that morning. Instead, we proudly donned our “Parents Know Best” stickers as we toured the Legislative Building and explored the capital grounds on this crisp, sunny day.

The kids check out a statue of a Saura Indian woman, whose tribe lived along the Dan River in North Carolina’s piedmont region.

After munching, we hit Pullen Park and let off some steam with a couple carousel rides and lots of outdoor play. After all, politics and history require a great amount calm, quiet and maturity, and the dudes delivered, so I figured I owed ’em!

Visits with grandparents

Back during the last weekend of January, Gabe’s basketball game was postponed due to bad weather lingering from the day before. Temps were actually higher and the driving conditions improved, so Stephen took the boys to see Granny and Grumps. It was a nice break for me and a treat for our mountain kin.

Then last weekend, I repaid the favor and took the 3 Amigos to see Gramsey and Papa. Stephen got to recharge with a little alone time, and the kids and I had a great time seeing lots of our Virginia family, especially Cousin Kara, who is always a blast!

Gabriel stands atop the staff of the goddess Liberty, who is part of the State Seal of North Carolina.

Trekking around town

On 2/16, Stephen and I treated ourselves to an hour-long couples massage for Valentine’s Day. It was quite the relaxing, therapeutic experience. Of course, we dutifully undid all the detoxifying by following up the session with lots of Mexican food and drink, but hey, it was a date night not to forget!

On 2/25, I took the dudes to their semi-annual dental appointments; but as it turns out, we were there a month early. Oops! The boys were kinda bummed ’cause they actually love going to see Dr. Mike. (He’s always voted the best pediatric dentist in the area.)

So, I figured we might as well try to make the most of our trek into town. We played at the park, met up with Daddy at a doc appointment he happened to be having the same day, and then feasted at the new Mellow Mushroom downtown. Yum!

In casual cowboy-boot style, Zeke looks dapper leaning against this cannon wheel.

And today, Stephen and Mr. Logan took off work so that they could accompany Miss Christie, all the kids and I to CC community. Our families had to do a group presentation during the opening, which was a vocal rendition of “Who Did Swallow Jonah?” while I accompanied on guitar.

Stephen and Logan got to see what it is we do every week at CC, the kids were ultra-psyched to have their dads around, and then we finished off the outing with yet another Mexican feast. Good times!

Improved attitudes abound

As mentioned earlier, everyone’s behavior (including my own) has been on an upturn lately. Good attitudes just make for happier homeschooling and a happier home.

During a lesson on the area of circle a few weeks back, Houston said, “You make it easy to learn, Mommy.” Wow, that was music to my ears and a definite improvement from some of the bad-attitude-laden comments I had had to endure during our school days earlier in the year.

vietnam memorial

Houston closely soaks in the sobering image of this Vietnam War memorial, quickly realizing that war is a lot different than the way it’s portrayed in video games.

And then when doing our “highs and lows” at dinner recently, all the boys’ highs were that day’s math lesson: measuring and comparing liquid equivalents and differences. That’s quite an amazing shift our rough month of January, which I’m sure included some homeschooling lows from the peanut gallery.

Another thing that abounds is Houston’s appetite. Case in point: dinner one night last week was chicken noodle soup and with pears for dessert … then cheddar cheese and crackers … then a couple bowls of cream of chicken soup … and then a grilled cheese sandwich. He’s a bottomless pit!

Adiós y gracias, Señorita Jessie!

The biggest thing as of late is that Miss Jessie is leaving her regular weekly gig here at “the zoo.” She is taking a job at her church, which is a great thing for her both career-wise and spiritually.

Pajama Day @ CC community: See if you can spot the 3 Amigos.

But this change also fits into my plans. See, after much prayer and reflection, I had recently decided that I was finally ready to wean myself from Jessie’s help. My realization had nothing to do with her job performance.

Simply put, Miss Jessie is amazing, so it’d be daunting undertaking to find a better childcare professional. She is creative, giving, sweet, energetic, punctual, hard-working, honest and loving.

If you think back to when Jessie started in September 2011, the 3 Amigos ages 4 and under and Stephen was working long hours, which was why we wanted an extra set of hands in the first place.

Then Stephen took a job where he worked out of state four days a week. That was a grueling 11 months, and I honestly don’t think I could’ve survived (or at least, kept my sanity intact) without Jessie’s assistance during that challenging time.

Houston plays around with our kids’ 6-string electric guitar (minus two strings). Hey, at least our piano’s tuned now.

But now that the boys are more mature and independent, Stephen’s working a normal come-home-to-your-family-every-evening job, and I’m getting more confident and comfortable with homeschooling, the time has come for me to fully embrace my role as teacher, housekeeper, family planner and all-around domestic guru.

And isn’t it remarkable how God somehow enabled Jessie’s and my major plans to work in tandem together? The Lord has a cool way of doing that.

Be sure to check out the Shutterfly photo book I made for Jessie as thanks for her contribution to our family. Click the thumbnail image under “recent activity” and be sure to use the “single-page view” and “full-screen” options (found in the upper righthand corner of the photo book template).

A long time dream of mine, I finally get a photo of Zeke and his bros on the big red balls at Target.

FYI, since Stephen and I have never found the time to poke around and figure out how to upload video to our Word Press site (should be easy, but it’s not), I plan on adding videos of the kids to Shutterfly … coming soon!

Gabriel had his final basketball game last Saturday. It was actually supposed to be two make-up games back to back, but the first team didn’t show. And then only one kid from the second team was present.

To make the best of a lame situation, the boy’s two brothers, Houston and Zeke, and a couple other meandering kids were recruited to play what turned out to be the most fun and lively game of the season. Way to go, Wildcats and Warriors!

A proud Gabriel shows off his much-deserved trophy for a great season of basketball!

After the game, we met Christie and crew at a free winter carnival, hosted by one of the CC moms who runs a dance school with her husband. The school, which shares a space with a martial arts business, offered grappling, foam-sword fighting, a bounce house, crafts and lots of games. It was a blast!

Last week, the boys and I went on a CC field trip to see a saxophone quartet performance. The event was for young kids, so the musicians included lots of explanation about their instruments, the pieces of music they played and how they came to be professional saxophonists. The boys thought it was okay, but I was mesmerized.

After that, we headed to Miss Christie’s for an afternoon of doing cool volcano experiments, playing guitar and singing (practice for our upcoming family presentations at CC), and jumping on Asher and Jackson’s new trampoline. Good times.

An intense Houston makes his play-doh volcano erupt.

Speaking of music, we finally got our piano tuned on Monday. It was a hand-me-down a neighbor had given us about five years ago. Needless to say, the instrument was extremely out of tune, had a broken key and was in dire need of repair.

It sounds phenomenal, so it’s time to start looking into lessons for Houston, and then the twins when they’re a bit older. Jessie has been giving the boys informal lessons for a few weeks now and they’re enjoying it, so I’m hopeful they’ll take to piano and grow in their love of music.

Wednesdays have stunk lately. In fact, January is a major stinker, as has been the case for three years running. Luckily, we made it through the first month of the year none worse for the wear and hump day is looking a bit brighter these days.

The source of one of my biggest frustrations lately has been Houston’s negativity toward school. Having already tried the “it’s the law” approach (as mentioned in the last blog), I decided to try to establish a reason for learning.

Gabriel loves playing @ the water-current station @ the Natural Science Center.

I thought this would be a good approach, since strong-willed children often need to know “What’s the point?” of a task. So, Houston and I talked about the importance of education as a whole and how homeschooling is a vehicle for that.

We discussed how knowledge glorifies God’s greatness, helps people learn from the mistakes of past, gives us information for conversation, guides us to areas of interest future study, offers ideas for employment, teaches us about who we are and where we came from.

But most importantly, we said that learning is often fun. And when the material is particularly difficult, mastering it is all the sweeter and satisfying.

Another bone of contention for Houston was time. “School takes so long,” he would often say. So one day, I used a stop watch to time all the lessons, minus breaks for discipline, household stuff, meals, hygiene, potty breaks, etc.

Asher supervises Zeke in the volcanic eruption process.

To Houston’s surprise (and mine), our actual time schooling — which that day consisted of CC memory work, phonics, math, a science experiment and a little art — took just around two hours! Sure it took all morning and into the afternoon to piece it all together, but sometimes life gets in the way of life.

Since then, Houston’s attitude has improved, thankfully. And I don’t feel like the lamest slow-poke mom on the planet.

And just as we’re starting to hit our homeschool groove, I find out that Saxon Math (the curriculum I currently use) is going to be aligning with the federal government’s educational mandate, the Common Core State Standards. Sounds like an oxymoron, right?

Obviously, seizing power from the states, their local school boards and parents writ large isn’t something of which I’d approve. After all, even Jimmy Carter’s Secretary of Health, Education and Welfare, Joseph Califano, admitted in 1977 that “national control of curriculum is a form of national control of ideas.”

Gabriel, Zeke, Asher & Houston recover from foam-sword fighting & eagerly await cage grappling.

Michelle Malkin has written extensively on the matter: Rotten to the Core: Part 1 and Part 2. She even has a feed about Common Core called Reader Feedback from the Frontlines.

But if you don’t buy Malkin’s arguments or any of the feedback she has received, maybe you’ll believe Kris Nielsen, a former North Carolina teacher used to defend Common Core. He even gave a presentation at his school in support of the mandate in order to ease parents’ concerns.

Since then, Nielsen has had a change of heart, which he wrote about on his blog, Middle Grades Mastery. Here are some highlights:

“The Common Core State Standards is a sham, the Smarter Balanced Assessment Consortium is an instrument of devastation.” (Common Core) … “has one goal: to create common people. The accompanying standardized tests have one purpose: to create standardized people.

” … But more importantly, all of the skills (like creativity, communication, critical thinking and collaboration) … lead our students to be profound, critical and meaningful participants in a modern democracy. Some would argue that our days as a free country for the people and by the people are limited, and running out fast.

“If we continue to support the path that our nation’s educational system is on, we will speed up the end of our democracy. When students are forced to learn for the sake of a score and are denied the opportunity to think and reason and question and appreciate the world in which they live, they are all the more easy to control and deny basic rights.”

Playing w/ the guitar pick makes strumming all the more enjoyable for Gabriel.

And not only is one of my homeschool curriculums selling out, but then I hear about U.S. attorney general, Eric Holder, implying that a law banning homeschooling would not violate the fundamental liberties of individual citizens. (Who wants to bet that they’ll be propagating such dangerous ideas in Common Core.)

“Freedom for the mind and spirit is as important as freedom for the body and spirit.” — Michael Farris, founder and chairman of the Home School Legal Defense Association

If you have the time, please read more about Romeike v. Holder, the case that’s before the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit. Whether you homeschool or not, certainly most common-sense people believe in school choice and the rights of parents — not government — to decide what’s best for their children.